July 8, 2012
I was up at the crack of dawn and couldn’t
complain about getting up so early because when I looked up on my way to the
pit toilet, I saw the sun just coming out and kissing the peaks of the Pamir
Mountains on the Afghani side of the border. Since I had no Internet connection
once again, I settled down to write the overdue letter to my friend Stephanie
until it was time for breakfast.
Mavluda told me the cooks had caved in and
cooked the butter tea, made with milk, butter and salt, that the students had
been clamoring for since they got here. They made rice pudding just for me and
it was the usual bland kind, so I wasn’t disappointed. We played
“Concentration”, “Where am I” and finally tried to get the students to write a
paragraph about “The best meal ever”, but if felt like pulling teeth as they
weren’t even used to answering the 5Ws in regards to the topic. I felt a bit
frustrated seeing the quality of the writing as they couldn’t even spell
“juice” or and kept calling me to ask for translation of words I had no idea
what they meant in their Pamiri dialect, Sudgni. I had asked Mavluda why she
never addressed the students in English except when in the classroom and in my
presence as they obviously needed more exposure to spoken English and that’s
what the camp was supposed to provide. She seemed taken aback by my comment and
muttered something about it being easier that way.
My mood lifted immediately after I was
notified that a wedding was taking place in the village at 1:00pm and I was
welcome to attend it in the company of Vilna, our village volunteer who knew
the bride, and Schanoz to serve as my interpreter. The bride’s house was just a
few minutes from the camp, and we found the backyard already full of guests
sitting on the ground under the trees to avoid the scorching mid-day sun. The
bride was the daughter of one of the camp’s cooks and she immediately came to
us to find me seat at a table under some partial shade. The table was groaning
with food that had been covered with a tablecloth to avoid the army of flies
flitting around us, and I decided on the spot to avoid any of the salads, most
of which contained mayonnaise, just in case as I had no idea how long the long
had been laid out there.
The bride and groom arrived exactly at
1:00pm, I guess no photo shoot around war memorials had taken place as they do
in Dushanbe, and the music started immediately. The groom was sat at a tapchon
with his aunt and best friend while the bride occupied a different one
surrounded by her former classmates and girlfriends. The rest of the groom
family didn’t attend the event as they were busy preparing a reception for the
couple later on in the afternoon. Plov was served accompanied by the same dry
and tough bread I dislike so much as it hurts my gums and the roof of my mouth
when I try to eat it. The portion of plov was very generous and quite tasty, so
I ate most of it and had some watermelon for dessert. The green tea was
transparent and there was no sugar around, so a couple of sips did it for me.
I noticed that although the bride was not
bowing down to her guests every so often, she kept her head down and was not
allowed to eat or drink in front of her guests just like the other brides I had
observed. Schanoz told me she was supposed to look despondent about leaving her
family home and eating or drinking anything would contradict such posture. The
groom, on the other hand, was eating heartily while chatting with his friends.
Oh, the injustice of it all. The band was quite good and the cook insisted I
dance at least once with her and I had to comply in spite of the heat. At least
they had reserved the dance area for place under a tree providing generous
shade. After people saw me dancing, and gave me some thumbs up for being able
to follow the beat, an older guy invited me to dance. I was pleasantly
surprised to see guys and girls dancing together, although without touching
each other, instead of the segregated dancing that takes place in Dushanbe.
It was time for the bride to change into
another outfit to make the trip to her in-laws’ house and we followed her
inside to watch the poor thing put on another dress, a red velvet one, on top
of the one she was already wearing and then the complicated process of wrapping
seven shawls around her head and shoulders that could only be removed by the
in-laws when she got to their house. I don’t know how the bride didn’t pass out
in the July heat once the process was over although her married sister did walk
with her trying to fan her face the whole time. In the meantime, the guys were
busy loading the bride’s dowry (carpets, duvets, pillowcases and the like) and
her hope chest filled with her trousseau into the top rack of an SUV.
Back at the camp, Mavluda informed me she
had taken the students swimming at the river, or swimming pool as they like to
call it, and there were no other activities planned. I returned for dinner to
find a few tablespoons of overly cooked rice floating in that disgusting gravy
with three little chunks of tough beef on top. I took one taste of it and it
wasn’t even hot. I refused to eat, and Mavluda offered to walk with me to the
truck stop restaurant where I had another bowl of lagman soup, also greasy and
only lukewarm, and some kolcha bread. Mavluda had been to the States and
sympathized with me as she was not able to eat everything she was offered while
staying there for over five months.
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